Keepin’ Your Marriage Smokin’ Hot

Over the next couple of days, I am going to post some things that Joni and I do to keep our marriage red hot.  (Ok, maybe I won’t give every detail)  Marriage, like any relationship, requires a TON of work.

If you’re honest, all of us have been through good and bad seasons in our relationships.  However, I do believe that if you are intentional, you can keep things hot….most of the time.

A long time ago, someone told me that you should:

1.  Call your wife daily – This lets her know she is far more important than anything else on your schedule.  It is especially helpful for my wife to have a few minutes of adult interaction, since she is home with kids all day.

2.  Date her weekly – A lot of people would say that they can’t afford to do this.  I say you can’t afford not do to so.  We manage to do this 3 of 4 weekends per month. My wife and I look forward to this time each week.   Anytime your kids are with you, it does not count as a date!

3.  Get away with her quarterly. To be honest this one is a little tougher.  We still manage to do so 1-2 times per year.  It is great to get away and not have to worry about getting kids to bed, feeding them, etc.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids.  However, I think one of the most important things I can do is to show them how much I love their mom.  To be honest, I want her to be around long after they move out!  If I don’t show her the attention that she deserves, I am pretty sure some other goon will.

This is like any other thing in life, you have to work at it.  It’s a price that I am very willing to pay!

(**Disclaimer – I know I just made myself look like Husband of the Century, but I fail miserably at these things all the time.  The key is to realize the mistake and work hard to make sure it doesn’t happen again!)